Wednesday
26Mar
Our Family - My Story - March 27th, 2004
March 26, 2008 Since I opened my little space on the blogosphere I have not posted too much about my husband. Today we are celebrating our four year wedding anniversary and I wanted to share our story and how we became a family. (Warning, very long post ahead).
My husband and I met in 1999 at the now defunked American Home Mortgage. We instantly became friends. He was the funniest person I had ever met, and that is my weakness. Laughter is the way to this girl’s heart. He was going through a divorce; I was recovering from an abusive bi-polar ex. We were each other’s sounding board for a long time. It was not until around 2001 that the flirting lunches progressed into the flirting dinners and so forth.
Our relationship was volatile and beautiful. Both of us so protective of our hearts, it was a rocky start in the beginning. After a while I knew he was the one. I could see it. The vision I had for us held my faith that love would conquer all.
As my Christmas present in 2002 he gave me the key to his house, it his way of telling me that we should move into together. I said yes.Living together and working together was the absolute worst thing we could have done for our relationship. After about three months of working and living together I knew I had to find a new job. It was an easy decision for me to leave.
Once I quit my job the relationship grew without effort. Our chemistry felt right, it was real love.
(You’ll need this piece of info for the next part of the story. Don and I never spoke of marriage. He guessed on the size of my ring by giving my height to the jeweler. Don told everyone at the party and my friends that he was going to propose. I had no idea at all he was even thinking marriage.)
On November 1, 2003 we were at his nephew’s fundraiser Halloween party. I was dressed up as Dorothy he was the Scarecrow (he may kill me knowing I posted this picture). We had gone outside to smoke and he asked me to go to his car to get cigarettes out of his glove compartment box. When I was in there he asked me to open the little compartment within the glove box. Inside was a tiny black box and inside the tiny black box was an engagement ring. This was his way of asking me to marry him. I said yes. I called my mother first, then his mother and finally all my friends. I could not believe the man I love just asked me to marry him and I had NO idea he was even thinking it. Words can never describe the excitement. The entire Halloween party knew he was popping the question to me so when we walked back into the hall everyone clapped and we did a congratulatory shot. Bliss.
Over the next couple of months I found my hall and I found THE dress. (This is a picture of me in the bridal shop-Dec 03). Our wedding date was set for November 13th 2004. It was now January of 2004. I quit smoking the first of the year and started working out with a trainer to get in shape for the “big day”. I was having a blast. Except ONE LITTLE THING. I was eight days late. Me, who is the perfect 28 day cycle was late. The first four days I chalked it up to quitting smoking and working out. By day eight I was scared. Even before I took the test I knew I was pregnant.
As any 31 year old would do, I called my best friend Jennifer and told her I have to come over to pee on a stick because I was too afraid to do it at home. I peed. I let it sit for 30 seconds before it pretty much screamed at me a big fat YES. I took another test. It said screamed the same yes.
I cried at first. Big fat tears because I knew everyone was going to be so disappointed. Especially my mother who wanted the big fairy tale wedding. I was also very scared to tell Don because here it is only three months after he proposed we are now pregnant.
I drove home. Slowly. As soon as I walked into our house he asked me what I was doing home so early. I burst into tears and said “I am pregnant, but I have to pee really bad be right back”. Yep. Leave it to me to do poetic justice to the little miracle in my belly.
After the shocked wore off on both of us, we hugged and started to imagine life with three. We called the families and everyone was so amazing and supportive. I was still able to have a fairy tale wedding because my wedding vendors did everything in their power to accommodate the new addition.
On March 27th 2004, four months pregnant with our son, Don and I recited the traditional vows of marriage to one another. To this day it is the happiest day I have ever had in my life. (Yes even outside of the boys births because without Don and me, their birthdays would never exist). Being able to marry my best friend, whose child I carried in my belly as we exchanged vows in front of all our friends and family was beautiful. Four years. In four years we both have seen how hard marriage can be on a relationship. It is not easy to love 24/7. It takes more work than I could have ever imagined. And what surprised me the most about marriage is that the bad times blind side you. You never see them coming. But within those four years we have grown our family of two into four. Our family's foundations is built on love and laughter and as long as we have those two pieces, we have everything we will ever need.
Happy Anniversary Donald Joseph ~ I love you. I love us. I love our family.
Reader Comments (44)
aw. happy anniversary!
That was a beautiful love story. I especially love that photo ...Happy Anniversary!!!
Beautifully written. A true love story if I ever heard one! Happy Anniversary! Enjoy your romantic getaway! Hugs!
That was a great post! What a great testimony to Love and Happiness for you and your boys to look back on someday. Love conquers all.
Congratulations to both of you!
Great post. It was our 12th this past weekend and I wish I had it in me to post such an eloquent piece as you just have! Congrats and Happy Anniversary!!
Kim.
I think I fall a bit more in 'love' with you every day. Plus, you're tall and gorgeous. That picture of you at the salon in your dress is gorgeous.This story is priceless.
Relationships aren't textbook nor are they 'perfect', wouldn't that be boring?!
I love this.
Congratulations, and happy anniversary honey.
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY KIM & DON...MAY YOU HAVE A TRILLION MORE ANNIVERSARIES...IT WAS A FARIY TALE WEDDING...
Happy Anniversary! May you have many more happy years together. By the way, thanks for linking my poems blog up. Have added yours to mine as well.
What a beautiful story. I also believe laughter keeps things alive. Congrats to you and your hubby on 4 years... and for still putting each other first.
that was beautiful!! and so sweet!!
HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!!!
i miss you!
xoxo
This is a great post. It is a priveledge to share in this story and to get better acquainted with you.
By the way, we have a true fairy tale book and let me just tell you that most fairy tales are way more complicated and messed up than any real life story I know.
KEEP BELIEVING
I guess I can probably stop crying now! I LOVE your story :)
I hope you two are already having an amazing time on your anniversary trip! Here's hoping you come home pregnant!!
Ohhh, Happy Anniversary, you two are such a sweet couple. Of course, now I'm sniveling and all icky from boohooing. Off to find a kleenex.
OK, so I read that it was a long post and I thought, "aw, man. I hope it isn't too long. I have the attention span of a gnat!" Then I started reading and after I stopped crying because I realized that I'm 35 and STILL not married, I didn't want it to end.I wanted to hear more of the fairy tale. You are a lucky, lucky girl. I hope you're having fun in PR. And remember, you are NOT Paris Hilton so stop making sex tapes down there. No one wants to see that. Ok, maybe I would, but whatever.
Awww. *sniff*
You're beautiful!
aww, happy anniversary!
And can I tell you that I'm a little jealous that you look that good and THIN when you were 4 months pregnant?
Aw! So so sweet! Happy Anniversary!!
Awww, honey. That was beautiful.
And exactly what I needed to read today.
EXACTLY. Happy Anniversary and I hope
that you are having a blast in PR.
♥
Awwww...I just cried a little!
Happy Anniversary!
Take Care
LJ
Congrats! It's also my 4 year anniversary,and funny enough I was also 4 mths pregnant when we got married.Have a Great anniversary and many more!!
Happy Anniversary... you two are so cute together! I enjoyed reading your love story.
Oh, you guys!!! Happy Anniversary!
You were such a beautiful bride, Kim! What a perfect little love story. And from now on, you should also give a tear warning in addition to post length warnings because I read this at work and am now all misty eyed and everyone keeps asking me what's wrong.
I read your blog while sitting in the salon (Downtown Salon on Main Street in Sayville, btw, with foil in my hair, and tears coming down my face. The whole part about how hard love and marriage can be and how that struggle can sneak up and surprise us, is so, so very true.
Happy Anniversary!
Here is to love!
Happy Anniversary & Congratulations on finding the love of your life. I've been in the moving process and neglecting blog reading! But I promise I'll catch up! Gorgeous pictures! :)
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What a beautiful post.
I love hearing how couples met and fell in love! Beautiful.
Happy Anniversary to you both!! What a cute story and thank you for sharing all those tender memories :)
In that Halloween photo is face actually looks LIKE The scarecrow even! WOW!
That's fantastic!
Congratulations.
I love love!
You look soo beautiful together. Have fun on your anniversary vacation [as if I need to say that lol]! Happy Anniversary!